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Do’s and Don’ts of Same-Sex Wedding Planning
In some ways, same-sex wedding planning isn’t very different than planning a wedding between a man and woman. Generally, there’s a ceremony with vows, followed by a party with toasts. Many of the finer details, however, can be quite different for LGBTQ couples than for straight counterparts.
Here are the do’s and don’ts for same-sex wedding planning.
Do take advantage of evolving same-sex marriage etiquette and adapt traditions. The modern wedding is something of a hodge-podge of traditions, with couples borrowing rituals from other cultures and religions freely. Same-sex weddings have always marched to the beat of their own drum in this way, so shop around! Adapt rituals from straight weddings like unity candles and processional order, or create unique ways to symbolize your union. Feel free to craft the ceremony of your dreams.
Don’t feel like you must wear a wedding dress or a traditional tux. Just because you’re a bride doesn’t mean you want to wear—or even feel comfortable wearing—a wedding gown. The same goes for grooms: You’re not relegated to traditional black formal wear. Same-sex couples are leading the wedding fashion world with creative and unique wedding attire like bridal suits or shorts for grooms. Think about what makes you feel special and comfortable, then shop for wedding attire that fits the bill.
Do be as unique as you’d like with engagement, bachelor, bachelorette parties and wedding showers. What does a bridal shower become when there’s no bride? An awesome celebration of love and marriage with close friends and family—no matter what you wish to call it. Don’t be shy about breaking the mold when it comes to your pre-wedding parties and showers. Name them whatever you’d like, invite whoever you’d like without regard to gender or “side” of the wedding party and have fun. Some popular trends for same-sex couples include inclusive wedding showers (i.e. one shower for the couple, rather than a shower for one person in the couple) and co-ed, combined bachelor or bachelorette parties.
Don’t think your wedding party must be divided by gender. In fact, same-sex weddings are much more likely than opposite-sex weddings to include men and women on both sides of the wedding party. Think about the folks who’ve supported you and your relationship, and ask them to participate. Forget about being super matchy-matchy in terms of the number of attendants, too. No one will fault you if the parties are a little lopsided.
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