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Do’s and Don’ts of Same-Sex Wedding Planning
In some ways, same-sex wedding planning isn’t very different than planning a wedding between a man and woman. Generally, there’s a ceremony with vows, followed by a party with toasts. Many of the finer details, however, can be quite different for LGBTQ couples than for straight counterparts.
Here are the do’s and don’ts for same-sex wedding planning.
Do throw tradition to the wind and have the proposal of your dreams. If you or your partner feel passionately about a traditional proposal, with one of you surprising the other and brandishing an engagement ring, then go for it! For other couples, each may want a turn to ask for a hand in marriage, so one may propose one day and their partner proposes to them at another time. Still, some couples may opt out of the proposal ritual altogether and choose to simply decide to get married, then begin to plan a wedding.
Don’t assume that only one of you is “allowed” to wear an engagement ring. More and more same-sex couples elect to purchase engagement rings for each other these days, rather than the tradition of only one member of the couple wearing an engagement ring. Whether you and your partner go this route, or choose to have only one partner wear an engagement ring, know that how you do this is totally up to the two of you. Buy matching rings, pick out rings together and exchange them on the spot or surprise your partner with a ring. Whatever works for you two is perfectly acceptable.
Do be sure your wedding venue is LGBTQ-friendly. The world of wedding venues for all couples is wide open now, and same-sex couples are hosting beautiful weddings in venues that range from restaurants to rustic barns. Now that same-sex weddings are more common, there are a wealth of online reviews for venues from gay and lesbian couples. Be sure you vet your venues before requesting more information to be sure they will enthusiastically accommodate your wedding.
Don’t think you have to put aside your religion or culture when selecting an officiant. While it’s true many sects of popular religions like Christianity, Judaism, Islam and Hinduism condemn same-sex marriage, that doesn’t mean there aren’t clergy in those religions who happily perform same-sex weddings. For religious couples, it may take a bit more digging, but with persistence, you and your partner will likely find a minister, rabbi or priest to marry you.
See you next week for more Do's and Dont's for same sex couples next week here on Lets Go Big Tunes blog page